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Six Easy Exercises that Increase Your Pleasure in Bed


During some late-night girl talk, a friend confided that, since menopause, her orgasms just weren’t as powerful as they used to be. She had been dutifully doing Kegels — exercises known for helping incontinence that also intensify climax — yet even so, the “big O” had become a “mini O.” Further detracting from her pleasure was a loss a flexibility that made it tough to find a comfortable position for sex and that often left her with a backache afterward.

I think my friend was joking when she said that she was giving up on sex… but all kidding aside, loss of a satisfying sex life is no laughing matter. To the rescue: Gynecologist Hilda Hutcherson, MD, author of Pleasure, suggested special exercises that help make sex feel great again. Recommended: Do the exercises below at least four times a week.

VAGINAL WEIGHT TRAINING intensifies orgasms by improving strength and function of pelvic floor muscles. After each use, wash your weights with soap and water, then air-dry. What to try…

Vaginal barbell is a thin weight about seven inches long, with rounded ends of two different sizes (try Natural Contours Énergie, $32.95…or Kegelcisor, $39.95). To use: Lubricate the larger end of the barbell with a water-based lubricant. Lie on your back with knees bent, and gently insert the lubricated end into your vagina until one-third of the barbell is inside and the rest is outside. Using your vaginal muscles to squeeze the hidden end of the weight, try to make the visible end move up and down. Gradually work your way up to 50 squeezes. When you master that, try inserting the smaller end of the barbell and moving the larger end.

Vaginal cones are small egg-shaped weights that typically come in sets of four or five. Each has a line attached, like a tampon, for easy removal. Online source: offers several kinds of vaginal cones starting at about $50. To use: After lubricating the lightest cone, gently insert it all the way into the vagina. Then walk around for five to 15 minutes, trying to keep the cone inside by squeezing your vaginal muscles. If it falls out, rinse the cone and insert it again. When you can easily manage 15 minutes, switch to a heavier cone.

PELVIC FLEXIBILITY AND STRENGTH ENHANCERS to increase the number of sexual positions you can comfortably get into, boosting stimulation of your pleasure spots. To practice, place an exercise mat or blanket on the floor. The moves to do…

Butterfly stretch improves hip flexibility and inner thigh strength. Sit on the floor, knees bent, soles of your feet touching so that your knees fall open. Grasp your ankles, and gently pull your feet toward your groin. Rest your elbows on your knees and gently press your knees down. Hold for 10 seconds… rest… repeat 20 times.

Pelvic tilt increases your ability to arch your back and thrust your hips. Lie on your back, knees bent, feet flat on floor and arms at your sides. Keeping your shoulder blades on the floor, lift your pelvis and your lower back as far as you comfortably can… also squeeze your vaginal muscles. Hold for 10 seconds… slowly lower to the floor and rest… repeat 20 times.

BACK STRETCHES AND STRENGTHENERS help prevent sex-induced back pain. Try these…

Beach ball stretches and soothes low-back muscles. Lie on your back, knees bent, feet flat on the floor. Grasp the backs of your knees and draw them to your chest. Hold for 10 seconds… slowly return to starting position… rest… repeat 20 times.

Cobra improves back strength and flexibility. Lie on your stomach, elbows bent and hands by your ears. Push with your hands, slowly raising your upper body (not your pelvis) off the floor and arching your back. Hold for 10 seconds… slowly lower to the floor… rest… repeat 20 times.

Source: Source: Hilda Hutcherson, MD, is a clinical professor of obstetrics and gynecology at Columbia University College of Physicians and Surgeons in New York City, and author of three books, including Pleasure: A Woman’s Guide to Getting the Sex You Want, Need, and Deserve. Date: November 25, 2010 Publication: Bottom Line Health
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