Stacey Cahn, PhD
Stacey Cahn, PhD, a staff psychologist in Counseling & Psychological Services and a clinical associate professor in the department of psychology at Rowan University in Glassboro, New Jersey.
Bottom Line: It’s a loss that’s like no other—but you can help…
The death of a loved one almost always triggers difficult emotions, but it’s even more traumatic for the families of those who have died by suicide. Whether the person is a celebrity or someone not known outside his/her immediate circle of friends and family, the death is tragic.
A troubling trend: Suicide rates have risen dramatically in the US—by more than 30% since 1999 in some states—leaving an increasing number of people struggling with this particularly tragic loss.
Families are often left wondering why their loved one chose to die. While mental health issues are frequently assumed to be the driving force behind the suicide, a recent analysis published in Morbidity and Mortality Weekly Report shows that more than half of people who died by suicide had no known mental illness. Of those who die by suicide with a known mental illness, just over half were receiving mental health treatment at the time of their death, according to the analysis mentioned above. Other risk factors for suicide include problems with relationships, poor physical health, unemployment, financial troubles and substance abuse. There is also emerging evidence that genetics may play a role as well.
Regardless of whether mental health issues played a role, family members are likely to be wrought with conflicting emotions, including anger, confusion, grief and guilt. Family members often ask themselves if they missed any warning signs…or if they did enough to suggest help or to intervene in any way.
While these questions may seem logical, it is not fair to assume that anyone—even a spouse or a parent—has control over the actions of another adult.
So questions from news media or well-meaning friends that allude to “missed signals” can be unnecessarily painful to family members.
What can you do for someone you know who has lost a family member or loved one to suicide? Here are some tips…