Are you exhausted by the anger that seems to be surrounding us? In the streets…on social media…and perhaps even in your own home? Job losses, fears of coronavirus and pressures because of the quarantine make tensions understandable. But anger is unhealthy in so many ways—for the giver and the receiver. How do you prevent the anger from “yucking” on you?
In this edition of the Bottom Line Advocator Podcast with Sarah Hiner, leading psychiatrist, Mark Goulston, MD, talks with Sarah about helping people understand and overcome the anger that is raging.
Highlights of the conversation…
- Anger is surrounding us (0:00 – 3:02)
- Don’t confuse directness with anger (3:02 – 3:42)
- Uncertainty plays a big role in rising anger and brings out the edge in everyone (3:42 -7:50)
- How tension today is rooted in 9/11 (7:50 – 10:48)
- Frustrations from feeling out of control and powerless 10:48 – 15:50)
- Is anger an emotion or a behavior? (15:50- 20:02)
- Does anger become a hardwired habit? (20:02- 21:42)
- #GoodnessSurroundsUs…kindness releases feel-good hormones (21:42 – 24:00)
- The invisibility of angry behavior…especially on social media (24:00- 29:10)
- The connection between anger and disappointment (29:10 – 32:01)
- Mark’s “hack” for calming people who are venting at you (29:10 – 36:44)
- Oprah Winfrey’s most game-changing story in her career (36:44 – 38:58)
- Recommendations for when you see friends’ anger on social media (38:58- 43:19)
- Before you post…W.A.I.T—here’s what that really means (43:19 – 46:23)
- Strategies to regain control (46:23 – 50:13)
- Always assume goodwill and know there is something else deep inside (50:13 – 52:17)
- A funny story of de-escalation (52:17
You can learn more about Mark and his work at MarkGoulston.com.
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